Japanese weddings are beautiful and culturally rich events, but they can also be a bit perplexing for those unfamiliar with the customs. One of the most important aspects is the “goshūgi,” a monetary gift given to the couple to offer congratulations and support for their new beginning. This guide will break down everything you need to know about goshūgi and other wedding etiquette.
What is Goshūgi?
Goshūgi is a gift of money presented in a special envelope (shūgibukuro) to the bride and groom at a Japanese wedding. It’s not just about the money; it’s a symbolic gesture of your well wishes and a way to help the couple with their wedding expenses.
How Much to Give
The amount you give depends on your relationship with the couple, your age, and your social standing. Here’s a general guideline:
- Friends and acquaintances: ¥30,000 – ¥50,000
- Close friends and relatives: ¥50,000 – ¥100,000 or more
- Colleagues: ¥30,000
- Superiors: ¥30,000 – ¥50,000 (or more, depending on your closeness)
Important Note: Avoid giving amounts that are divisible by two (e.g., ¥20,000) as this is considered unlucky in Japanese culture, as it symbolizes the couple “splitting.”
Preparing the Goshūgi Envelope
- Choose the right envelope: Select a shūgibukuro appropriate for a wedding. It should have a decorative “noshi” (a folded paper ornament) and gold or silver ribbons.
- Write the names: On the front of the envelope, write your full name in the lower right-hand corner. On the inside, write the amount of money you’re giving in the center. Use traditional Japanese numerals if possible.
- Insert the money: Place the bills (crisp and new are preferred) inside the envelope, making sure the faces of the bills are facing the front.
- Wrap it all up: Some shūgibukuro come with an outer wrapping. If so, place the envelope inside and fold the wrapping closed.
Presenting the Goshūgi
- Bring it with you: Don’t forget to bring your goshūgi to the wedding reception.
- Present it to the reception desk: When you arrive, there will be a reception desk where you’ll present your goshūgi.
- Offer a greeting: Say “Goshūgi desu. Omedetō gozaimasu” (This is a congratulatory gift. Congratulations) when handing over the envelope.
Other Wedding Etiquette Tips
- RSVP promptly: Respond to the wedding invitation as soon as possible.
- Dress appropriately: Follow the dress code indicated on the invitation. Generally, formal attire is expected.
- Be punctual: Arrive on time for the ceremony and reception.
- Offer congratulations: Congratulate the couple and their families.
- Participate in the festivities: Enjoy the food, drinks, and entertainment.
Attending a Japanese wedding is a wonderful experience. By understanding the tradition of goshūgi and following these etiquette tips, you’ll be well-prepared to celebrate with the happy couple and their families.